Short Rocco

So this guy and I emailed and chatted online for a number of weeks before we actually met in person. We played phone tag once or twice but never spoke on the telephone.

Finally the time came and we made plans to meet. He suggested a little wine bar in the East village. I can't remember what it was called, sorry. Anyway, I arrive and he is at the bar waiting for me. I was surprised, and I'm not sure if it was a pleasant one or not, but even though he was very cute, he looked as if he literally rolled out of bed and just stumbled upon a wine bar. ( short, looks a bit like Rocco Dispirito, the Chef, great smile, brown hair, brown eyes) Anyway, he definitely didn't look like he was interested in making a impression, or at least a good one.

I overlooked that because after weeks of chatting and him actually still looking cute (nice smile I must emphasize) I was still interested. We ordered a bevvy of different wine options. Oh I forgot to tell you that after a couple of missed telephone connections, he had this idea of us not speaking until we met. He was really excited by that and thought it would be fun..lol So I agreed. He was a real charmer and very funny. I always enjoyed my conversations with him and that evening over wine was no exception. I liked him and definitely wanted to hang out again.

He was really cool, and complimentary that night. Told me I was beautiful. More so than he he thought I was in photos. He looked pretty much like I expected. Needless to say, I wasn't disappointed. So we began to settle up and leave. It was still winter so it was freezing outside. We walk out and this is when I got a little confused. He didnt offer to walk me home nor did he try to kiss me. I figured maybe he was just really shy so we hugged goodnight and went our seperate ways.

We kept in touch but never actually saw eachother again. In fact I asked him why he never called. He said that he was really sorry but had just been really busy. Of course I busted his balls and told him " Everyone is busy. Why are you the exception?" He said, "you're right" I'm going to call. I was like " yea yea whatever, we'll see" Then I told him that if he wasn't interested, then it was fine, no worries. Just let me know and perhaps we could be friends. He reponded adamently about how he was very interested. Whatevs. We still chat now and again, but its been like 5 months and he still hasn't called. I gave up on him ages ago.

Wardrobe: Dark black skinny jeans, Prada suede over the knee boots in black, crazy multicolored long blouse, wrap puffer coat.

Coming up*

Hi COASD readers,

Just wanted to give you a sneak peek of some upcoming posts. Been a little lazy and I'm trying to keep this as updated as possible.

Still to come:

The OTHER Architect
Short Rocco
The Writer
More on The Water guy
The Techie Guy
The overgrown Camper
The Photographer

I'd also like to give you details on how things went down with certain past suitors such as:

The investment Banker
The Jewelry guy

The Korean Singer

So after a few nice telephone exchanges, it was time for us to finally meet. Just from talking to him on the phone I knew I was interested in getting to know him better. He gave GREAT phone..

So we decided to meet at Cafe Mogador which is a place that you would ordinarily find me for brunch on a Saturday, but figured it would be cool to meet there one evening for tea and apertifs. I as per usual was on time and I had to wait. Can I just say how much I distaste waiting for people, especially men. That means that you don't value my time or you just don't plan well. Which ever was the case, I texted him to let him know I was there...i.e. hurry the hell up!

So he gets there, and he was kinda cute. Not hot ( He is asian after not-NO Offense) But was totally sweet and cute. We go inside and get a seat. He and I both order some apertifs and a pot of their amazing morrocan tea. We shared everything and the dinner options were just as lovely as the brunch options for sure.

So we talked about how our days were. I met him on Match.com and so I was curious to find out if he thought I looked the same. He looked the same to me. And he said I did too. I can't really rememeber what all we spoke about at the restaurant but as were leaving he wanted to get ice cream. So we go to the Australian ice cream and candies shop a couple stores down and get some. I wasn't a huge fan of that type of ice cream and wasn't able to finish mine.

So we walked around for a while with our dessert when I told him that I should get going. He offered to give me a ride home, which I was reluctant to do at first, but gave in because I was wearing heels. We walked to his car ( he drove a lexus) and we actually ended up just sitting in there and talking more until he revealed to me that he use to be a singer! I was totally shocked and I don't think I have ever heard an asian person who had the ability to sing well. I was curious naturally so I asked him to sing a little something.

With a bit of hesitation he gave him. He put in a CD of Bryan Mcknight for him to sing along to. It started a little rough but as he progressed into the song, I was really surprised but in a good way. This dude was actually singing and singing quite well! I didnt want him to stop so he sang a couple more notes of some other songs too. His voice is very R&B/soul and he use to not only sing but he wrote and produced his own music along with his younger brother who is also a great singer.

So after singing in the car for almost an HOUR, he drives me home. We hug good night and I went inside my building. All in all, is was a nice date. I don't know if it was a love match per se, but definitely someone to be intrigued by for sure.

Wardrobe: dark blue skinny jeans, black and white striped blouse with victorian collar, grey suede pumps.

The Guido

OK I'm going to try and tell you about the 2 dates we went on in one post. First off, He's called the Guido not because he acts like a Guido, but because, well, that is his last name. Seriously. I couldn't make that up even if I tried.

So on our first meeting, date, whatever, we agree to go to Cocoa Bar in the LES to have coffee. I got there on time, and I was forced to wait like 10 minutes looking like an asshole the whole time in this small place that was totally empty except me and 1 random girl. So he gets there and he is all smiles...Can't remember if he apologized for his tardiness or not, but the conversation struck rather quickly and was a bit more animated that I felt comfortable with.

His arms were flailing all about as he enthusiastically told me stories to which I don't even remember now since this took place months ago. Either way, I remember thinking that all this hand movement was unnecessary and displaced. Other than his distracting antics, he did seem like a nice guy..one who at pushing 40 was still partying it up like a weathered rock star. I was a little thrown back by that and wondered the entire time.." this dude Can NOT be serious." But he was..it was sad really. I mean he wasn't even mildly attractive and his nose took residence on most of his face. So that was that..He walked me to my corner and dropped me off there as if I was picking up the early late night shift on 6th Street and ave B..It was weird.

OK don't ask me why I agreed to go on a 2nd date with him. Ok well I guess I'll indulge. He offered to take me to Rayuela which is a spot I'd heard great things about and wanted to go and get a free dinner. There that's what it was.

So I met him at the restaurant and he told me that he has tried almost everything on the menu. He made some suggestions which were appealing and I of course made some of my own. By the time all the food arrived ( tapas style by the way) our table was cluttered..in a way almost as delicious had the table been covered in shoes, but mexican tapas came in as a great alternative;)

This date wasn't as bad as I thought it might be. I got a little drunken and opened up much more and was speaking very passionately about what I do for a living. He was VERY impressed and I thought, oh Shit..I didnt want him to be interested in me and now I've ruined that. oh well. I engaged more in convo this time and really enjoyed the food and surprisingly his company as well. He wasn't as gross this time around thats for sure. I wonder if he's like a fungus and just needs to grow on you until he can be fully appreciated.

Nonetheless, I knew I wasn't actually interested before the date began, and even though his loser rating got better, it really didn't make much difference to me. The best part of the evening was when it ended ( and no not because it was over) but because I got to walk home in the snow. We love the snow!

He asked me out again, but I "forgot" to call him back.

Wardrobe: Bubble skirt, Opaque tights, vintage T-shirt, Black wrap puff coat. Tres Chic!

The uber chic Indian

We met a couple of months ago. He wrote to me and asked if he could take me to Gyu Kaku which is one of my favorite places to eat in NYC. Of course I would never turn down a free meal even if its not at a super swanky overly priced restaurant. It was pouring down rain and when I arrived he was already there out front waiting ever so patiently.

He was VERY well dressed and had a beautiful smile. He was tall with a slim built (mmm my favorite), and spoke with a british accent. Once we were seated he thanked me for coming out to have dinner with him. This guy has got to be one of the, if not, the most polite creatures I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. We ordered some plum wine and my usual favorite dishes from the menu to share. He really liked the food..not surprising because everyone does.

We spoke about his native India and his family and how he grew up. He also told me about his business. He owns two Japanese hair salons as well as a mobile phone store in New Jersey. He describes himself as a Slumdog millionaire..lol although his story is different, it was still very fascinating. He was very smart, charming and not at all what I was expecting oh and get this..He Also doesn't like Indian food just like me.

So the evening was winding down and I double booked yet again and needed to get going. Not long before we were going to leave he gave me a bag which contained a bottle of sake he bought for me as a gift. I was like OMG no one has ever given me a gift on a first date or even the first time meeting! I must say I was impressed which isnt easy to do. It was such a lovely gesture and he expressed interest in hanging out again to which I accepted of course.

We leave Gyu Kaku and with a bit of trouble due to bad weather he manages to wrangle a cab for me. We hug goodbye and and go our seperate ways.

Wardrobe: Dark skinny jeans, white blouse with waist coat. Chanel green/gret spectador pump.

The Water Guy

This was a chance meeting for the two of us. It was via Eharmony and he was the 1st person to contact me and I was the last person he reached out to. He took it as some sort of sign. On a snowy evening we decided to meet at Enoteca in the LES. This was right after my date with the Architect (Yes I double booked) So we meet inside but we couldn’t get a table. He for some reason didn’t think to make a reservation at a known to be busy spot in the area, so we left and went to Allen and Delancey instead. He was pretty touchy feely for my taste right off by putting his hand on my lower back as I walked inside and grabbing my waist as we walked side by side. He was sweet though and smiled quite a bit. Totally harmless type of dude I felt. We tried a couple different types of wine and he told me that he works as an engineer for a company that makes some pretty popular water brands. He also told me that lives and owns a condo not far from the place we were at. I must admit I was intrigued but not so sure if I was attracted to him. He was short, a bit stocky, and had a shit load of tattoos and long hair. It was a lot of look for an Asian guy. Yea I’m still on the Asians. Anyway, this was just our first date but something told me not to write him off too quickly. Perhaps he could become a really fun friend to have. A love match no, but definitely someone I wouldn’t mind hanging out with. He was funny, rather charming and I could tell he was attracted. His smile actually reminded me of that girl Ruthie from The Real World Hawaii. You know the girl who was a drunk but had that big toothy grin that made her adorable. I wonder if she was Philipino like this guy..Anyway, More to come on him..Stay tuned.


Wardrobe: * see The Architect

The Michael Phelps lookalike

So I met this guy a few months ago on Match.com. We exchanged a few emails and set up a date to meet for drinks. It was a friday night and we agreed to meet at this spot in Soho. I can't remember what it was called. I arrived on time like I usually do, but he was late. I wasn't impressed by this or the place we went to. I walked in and it was more bar than lounge and for a girl who isn't a big drinker, this scene didn't appeal to me, but I put on a smile and stayed positive. I was excited to meet him because he seemed like a very interesting person.

After waiting almost 20 minutes he showed up and was apologetic about making me wait. Then he offered me a drink. I got a glass of Reisling and he had a beer. Why do guys like beer so much? I mean does it really taste THAT good? It smells like wet dirt! Anyway, we talked about family and work, and he had a pretty cool job. He worked in the aviation industry and sold and rented jets to large corporations...I think that's what I gathered..lol. It sounds like he loved his job. He was planning to go to Turkey for business in a week and he was telling me about the country since he has been there a couple of time for work.

Physically he had some nice attributes: He was tall, had gorgeous blue eyes, lean build, and nice thick brown hair BUT there was one thing. This one thing is something that I have never been able to overlook when it comes to guys. To some, its probably just a minor thing but for me its SORT of a deal breaker and that was his offensive teeth. I mean they were huge and going in all different directions. I can't imagine it being fun to make out with someone with a set of fangs like that! Hence the name Michael Phelps lookalike. I tried not to stare...not too sure how successful I was at that.

So through the 2 hours of our date I felt comfortable and he seemed to be attracted to me. So he told me that he would give me a call when he gets back from Turkey and hang out again. I thought that would be cool even though I knew I wasn't interested in him as more than a friend, so I told him that it would be fine for him to call me.

Fast forward to present day. Haven't heard or seen him since. Whatevs.


Wardrobe: Black shiny leggings, yellow vintage blouse, Prada black suede over the knee boots.

The Old Dude

So this guy was yet another brilliant CL find. Lovely older gentleman, divorced with a teenager daughter. At first, and don't judge me, I was thinking that he would make quite the Sugar Daddy..Life in NY is expensive, but after meeting him and getting to know him over dinner I quickly realized that I could never be that girl and he certainly wasn't looking for any type of "arrangement".

We went to a lovely french spot called fluer du Sel after meeting up for a few drinks at Tabla. I took a cab over but the cab didnt accept credit cards and I didnt have any cash on me. I didnt know what to do so I proceeded to try and convince the driver to turn on his meter again. Apparently if you take too long to swipe your card, it shuts down..Such BS..Anyway, I was sitting in the parked cab across the street from Tabla for about 10 minutes when The old dude called me. I was a little embarassed to let him know what was going on, but he said don't worry about it and quickly came to my rescuse.

The significance in age was nothing to be ignored and I noticed that people were probably wondering what this young girl was doing with this older man. But It didn't bother me and he didn't seem to notice either. He was a perfect gentleman and dressed nicely too. We chatted about our family, and work, etc. He was a lawyer for 30 years..longer than I've been alive, but whatever, and now he works as a CEO at some publishing company which he says is much more fullfilling than being an attorney. He seemed fascinated, like most men are, with what I do for a living and asked the typical questions like " Are all male models gay?" yada yada yada. Of course not, and I quickly gave him a very realistic view of the industry.

Dinner was fabulous and the restaurant was lovely. We shared some wine, and had a few laughs and he told me that he wants to go out with me again. We left the restaurant and was greeted by a huge gust of super cold wind that nearly knocked me over. It was effing freezing outside. We walked to the next corner and we got a cab together. I was planning to go home and I had no intention of inviting him in. He put his hand on my knee which was a bit uncomfortable but I figured it could be worse. He could be trying to make out with me, and I'll have to run as fast as I could. We stopped at my street and we BOTH exited the car. I'm thinking, OMG, he really thinks he going home with me so I said " thank you, I had a great time. Have a good night."

Poor guy, I left him there on the street to find another cab. He shouldnt have been so presumptuous and should have stayed in the cab and gone home.

He emailed me the next day asking for another date. I said sure, but never followed up..oops

Wardrobe: Black leather pencil skirt, silk blouse, black tights, black high heel booties, and black cape with 3/4 length sleeves

Suitor Poll

The Poll ended obviously and I'm sure some of you are wondering what happened to them.

Well I'm not seeing any of them anymore.

The investment banker became too sleezy and gross

The European Doctor wanted more than what I was willing to give him

The Beautiful asian didnt want to give me what I wanted from him..loser

The Bulgarian wanted a relationship right away and became just a tad too pushy about it

The Architect

So I met this dude whilst roaming the personal Ad's on Craigslist. I needed something to write about so here goes. This dude had a couple of things going for him...I had Just stopped seeing the beautiful asian and as we all know, I love to replace men with other men who remind me of my former man...not wise, but it helps me. So he was asian, but lived in Brooklyn. I of course would never subject myself to an outer borough experience just to meet a guy so I suggested that we meet at Max Brenner's in the East Village for cocoa.

He was late...not cute

And neither was he for that matter. not ugly, but was in no rush to jump his bones either. He was nice enough and smart and loved chocolate just as much as I did, possibly more. So he told me about the projects he was working on and I talked about what I did. You know normal 1st date banter blah blah blah.

Things began to wind down and he seemed really interested. He asked for a second date. OH I forgot to tell you, in his Ad that he posted he stated that he was only interested in meeting asian or caucasian women. So I was actually surprised when I realized I had convinced this dude to broaden his racial horizons and go on a date with a little brown girl. Men can be so close minded, but It was refreshing that he took that chance and not only met with me, but wanted to go out again.

So it was about 7 or 8, and I told him I needed to go because I had to meet a friend. I actually had another date. Yes I double booked. So he paid and we walked outside and to my great surprise it was snowing! Everyone knows how much I love snow and I thought about actually walking in heels to my 2nd date, but he got me a cab instead.

We hugged and said goodnight and I was off to meet eligible asian number 2...

Wardrobe: Cant remember as this was AAAAges ago...actual time, 2 months ago..ha